She's is so gorgeous, not just on the outside, but on the inside too

Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Thank you so much George for your quick response. I
really appreciate it. I'm going to try really hard to
do what you suggested. I really need to change my
thinking because this is making me crazy.

She's is so gorgeous, not just on the outside, but
she's a really wonderful person on the inside too.
But, I realize that even if we were both single and
interested in each other it would still be bad since
we work together and love our salon and wouldn't want
to jeopardize that with any weirdness.

I think one of the reasons I'm so concerned is I've
had experiences in the past where I would be friends
with a girl and hanging out dancing, partying,
whatever, and after a little drinking, boom, a girl I
didn't even know ever looked at me that way is suddenly all
over me. Now under normal circumstances, that would be
easy to say no to, (now that I'm married) but I'm
scared of ever having more than one drink around her,
if something like that popped up. We were at a party
together over the weekend and I just got this
feeling...Imagine if the hottest girl you've ever seen
started coming on to you after you've had a few
drinks. What do you do?! Should I just never drink or
be alone with her?

The other thing is, I feel frustrated because other
guys tell me that their girlfriends are bi and how
cool it is, and how much they love it. I wonder why it
is that most guys love the idea while mine doesn't.
He's not turned off by it, but he doesn't think it has
any place in our relationship, unless I was willing to
let him do whatever I was doing. Of course, I could
never do that. Sometimes, I just think it's kind of
unfair because I can give him whatever he could get from
another woman, but he can't do that for me. Girls kiss
and touch in such a different way,and even though I
totally love my husband sometimes I miss that.

But, whatever. I'm going to stop boring you with my
issues. Thank you so much for listening. Like I said,
there isn't anyone I trust enough to confide all of
this in. Almost everyone I socialize with assumes I'm
totally straight.


P.S I initially sent this as a reply, and then read not to do that. Ooops! Advice
It's very clear to me that you have a very sound mind and that you will work your way through this. Too bad we live in a world with so many rules.

Good luck!

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at

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