All his family is an alcoholic (including my boyfriend) and I hardly ever touch a drink

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Okay, first of all I want to thank whom evers reading this.

Ive been with my boyfriend for almost two years. We have been through breaking up before he broke up with me around this time last year. I moved away from my family about six hours away to be with him. I wasnt happy there at all. All his family is an alcoholic (including my boyfriend) and I hardly ever touch a drink. My boyfriend treats me pretty badly and I dont know why. So being unhappy there caused mad depression where I wasnt eating so I told my mom that I lost weight (like sickly skinny) and she took me back home where Im very happy. I dont want to go back but all of my belongings are there which Im willing to give up. I dont know if my boyfriend will want revenged and Im really afraid what the reaction will be. Also I dont know how Im supposed to do it. Can you please give me some kind of advice. Nobody approves of him and I dont want to be with him anymore.

Thankyou so much. Advice
I think you meant to write that you DO want your belongings.

If that is the case, call your boyfriend and tell him it is over and you want to come and get your things. If he says yes then everything is fine.

If he says no, then call the police in that town and ask them what to do. You probably have the key to the place where your belongings are located. Rent a U-Haul and take a few male friends or relatives with you to collect your stuff.

If you really DON'T want your stuff then stall him about returning until you think he is ready to hear the news. You could even say that your doctor recommends that you do not return because of your health. I'm sure your doctor would give you that advice if you asked him.

Sorry you are in this situtation!
Good luck,

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