now that I've broken up with him I don't think that he will ever have me back

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ok. This situation is really complicated. I've been dating this guy for about a year. He is still friends with his ex-girlfriend. That is not the problem. I think that she and another girl (who he is friends with) have been trying to break us up so that the other girl can be with him.
"Bobbi" the ex calls and invites him to family dinners and parties...which I don't have a problem with...and he goes...without inviting me...which I do have a problem with. She also has called him to go out when I'm working and takes this other girl with her.

This other girl calls him to borrow books and has asked him to grow plants for her and has asked him for a 15 year old computer that he is going to thow away...even tho she has a perfectly good one at home. She also wants him to go desk shopping with her.

He refuses to see that this other girl is interested in him because they are "just friends". He isn't helping because he refuses to believe that his ex-girlfriend would do anything devious. He also has a picture of this other girl on his refrigerator. There are no other pics hanging up in his house except of his kids. I think he's just trying to test me and push buttons.

Needless to say, I broke up with him this weekend. He recieved an anon letter in the mail that said "You and your girlfriend are the subject of conversation between "Bobbi" and "Suzi". " and it was signed "A friend of both."

He still does not believe that they were meddling in our relationship because "they have nothing to gain".

I really love this guy and would like to have a normal adult relationship with him, but now that I've broken up with him I don't think that he will ever have me back. And if he would, I don't know that he would ever believe that they are doing all of this devious stuff...there is more than what I have told you about.

What do I do? Advice
You broke up with him and now want to know what to do?

This is a tough situation and I don't envy you.

He is not very good at reading situations, and he has done so much wrong that he has alienated you.

My advice is to move one, but since you love him my advice is to try to make a good friend of him again and the old good feelings will come back into his heart. Too much has passed between you for him to forget you now.

Good luck!

-- from George
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