Do you have any advice on how I can get over doing this and feel good about myself again??
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I kind of have a messy situation on my hands. Well I wrote in here one time asking if it was okay to have a sexual relationship with an ex, and you said to talk it over first but we were already having one. Well, I love him with all my heart, and I want to be with him so bad, but for some reason we are not together in a relationship right now, but we are sexually and even emotionally. But I have wanted nothing but to be with him (we were in a relationship for 3 years). Last night though, I made a mistake and ended up messing around with another person. Now I feel pretty horrible, just because I feel weird about it because my ex was the only person I was ever with and I am still in love with him and for some reason it is making me feel disgusted with myself for doing things with this other person, just because there was nothing there between us (I didn't like him that way). And now I am having trouble accepting it and I just want to forget it happened. I also don't plan on telling my ex about it because I know it would hurt him so much, because neither of us can handle thinking of eachother with someone else, and he hasn't touched a girl since we broke up. I know that since he doesn't want to be with me I should be able to do whatever I want because it was his choice not to be with me, but I just could not hurt him that way. And I feel like I hurt myself too.
Do you have any advice on how I can get over the fact that I did this and feel good about myself again??
It's actually not too difficult. Stop thinking of yourself as being so perfect that you can't make a mistake. Every single living human being makes mistakes and many, many of them are "worse" than what you did.
So, don't make a martyr out of yourself. Just make sure that you learn something from this mistake and that will be good enough.
-- from George
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