I was willing to move down to be near her when she's at university. I told her this.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I'll try to sum this up as shortly as I can.
Basically, I was with my ex for six months and it was great. We fell in love. She went to university at the end of the summer and we stayed together. However, being a long term relationship, I was scared. I just played it casual. I thought it'd never work out, so I was a bit too cool about everything. If she was around, it was great. When she wasn't, yes I missed her, but I started to get used to her not being there.
This went on until May this year. I realised that I was hurting her. I knew I loved her, but I wasn't showing her. I needed time to myself to work out what I wanted and what I needed to do to make her happy. So I suggested a break.
In that time, I realised how much I love her. I realised that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her and I was willing to move down to be near her when she's at university. I told her this.
We met up when she got home from uni for the summer a few weeks ago. We spoke and agreed it would be hard, but we would try. The thing with her is that she doesn't ever open up.
Anyway, out of the blue, she started not to see me. She kept making excuses. After a while she admitted it was too hard to see me. She said she was confused. She said she loved me. I found out last weekend that she's now going out with a friend of hers. The way I see it, she came back from uni unsure of how I felt about her and she was confused. She maybe confided in him and they've always got on well.
She is very scared and reluctant because of how things were last year. She's said that for that reason she can't be with me again. I know that they won't be like that because I really have changed and I am committed to her.
I can sense she maybe still has feelings for me, she's just trying to block them out and move on.
We have said we'll be friends. She says it's hard for her at the moment, but when we are friends I intend to be her best friend. I love her and want her to know that I am willing to make her happy, even if that is just as a friend. I know, if I have any chance of winning her back, I have to show her that she can trust me. I have to show her the reason she fell in love with me again.
I love her so much and want to be with her forever. I am just so upset that I realised too late. Maybe had we communicated more we wouldn't have got to this point.
Do you think she still cares for me and this friend she's with is her on the rebound? She said she loved me a week or so ago after all. I just know we can make it work, she just needs time. I suppose I'm worried that being with this friend will make her forget about me.
My advice is to tell her you are moving down near her university because you love her so much.
Tell her that you will devote yourself to building the old relatiionship again.
I think she still cares for you and will welcome hearing your declarations.
Good luck with this!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com