during the break up ..he showed that he didnt want to have anything to do with me
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
ok i have written before ..a couple of times .. i want my ex back because he is the love of my life,he was my only bf of 3 years. He broke up with me cause I said that he wasnt rich enough ..out of spite that he had told me that he doesnt love me "as much as he used to" because i wasnt able to see him as often which made his love for me decrease. anyway its been 7 months in total that we've broken up but its been 3 months that we hadent spoken or seen each other. the last time we did see each other was may 15, 2005. and the other day 7/19/05 i kept getting calls from "private" on my cell phone of someone playing me (me and my ex's love songs) ..long story short i said over the phone "if ur man enough speak" and he did and it turned out to me my ex who had been blocking my number and calling me for the past 3 weeks as well each day and night..sometimes even 4x in a row at 4am. he said to me over the phone "you didnt have my number to call me for the past 3 months" and he sounded really saddddd "and i said ive been busy, but listen i get off at work at 6, ill call you then and we can talk" i lied to him about the busy part cause i couldnt think of anything else to say ...but anyway i didnt call him back that night because my friends said if i did then i would seem desperate and cant wait to talk to him again..so i called him the next night and he said "listen i am at someones house playing, but you were suppose to call me last night. what happened"" and i said "thats cool, yeah i know im sorry" and then he said "ill call you later tonight" and im like "ok ill talk to you then, bye" and he said the same thing...he did call me back but my phone was on silent so i didnt hear it and when i got his call it was too late to call him back .........what does all this mean? does it mean that he missed me?? he wants me back?? still loves me?? thinks of me constantly??? because during the break up ..he showed that he didnt want to have anything to do with me, he put up a really strong gaurd. acted really tough in front of me. but he broke down first and called me after all thattttttttttttttt - how do i act? cold? nice? fun? make him jealous ? show that he doesnt mean anything to me? BECAUSE I WANT HIM BACK!!! AND NOW I FEEL LIKE I MIGHT GET A CHANCE AND I DONT WANNA LOSE THE ONLY OPPERTUNITY THAT I HAVE - PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE ALOT DEPENDS ON THISSSSS - HE IS MY LIFEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
The first two times you wrote, you were advised to seek professional counseling to get to the bottom of you obsession with this guy and find a way for you to attract him.
The third time you wrote, you were advised to have deep honest meaningful conversations with him so the the appropriate emotions would grow between you.
Now you write, still out of control, and when he calls you instead of having honest meaningful conversations with him, you lie to him and then promise to call but don't do it... another lie.
You need to hear the same message over and over until you get it in your head... see a counselor and stop lying to this guy.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com