Should i believe him or do you think i'm being played?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I was seeing this guy for a couple months. At first he would call me like every other day. Then the time between calls or getting together got farther and farther apart. Then I stopped hearing from him. After not hearing from him for a week, i texted him to see what was up. His response was I've been extremely busy. So i figured fine whatever i'll just give him space and he'll call or text me when he has time. But then i didn't hear from him for like three weeks. In my mind i figured he just started dating someone else and moved on from me. Then out of the blue i hear from him. I debated on whether to return his call. My friends told me to ignore it that he had probably been out dating someone else for the last couple weeks and i should forget about him. Well i got back in touch with him anyway. He told me that he had gotten sick and missed some school which threw him behind so he was playing catchup and on top of that he works full time and does volunteer work with the city. Well i believe him, i don't feel like he's lying to me and on the same note i didn't try to get in touch with him those weeks either so i can't say anything about him not calling me b/c i didn't call him either. My friends are still saying that they think he was cheating those weeks and lying to me about it. Which is making me doubt things. I know its easy to be persuaded by others and i don't want to jump to conclusions but i don't want to be played for a fool either. I just was wanting another opinion on the matter. Should i believe him or do you think i'm being played?
You have to wonder if he didn't have five minutes to contact you.
On the other hand if he is feeling down and stretched out he might feel like he needs space for a few weeks.
So, I guess, you should follow your gut reaction and trust him. It's better to make a mistake in his favor rather than against him.
-- from George
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