I AM 17YRS OLD I HAVE 2YR DAUGTHER WITH MY BOYFRIEND OF 3 YRS
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I AM 17YRS OLD I HAVE 2YR DAUGTHER WITH MY BOYFRIEND OF 3 YRS. RECENTLY I HAVE BEEN TALKING TO MY EX BOYFRIEND. WHEN I AM WITH MY EX I HAVE A GREAT TIME AND WE GET ALONG GOOD. NOW WITH MY RECENT BOYFRIEND WE DO FIGHT BUT THEN WE HAVE GOOD DAYS, WE ALSO HAVE A KID TO ARGUE OVER. I LOVE MY B/F BUT HE'S 21 AND I JUST FEEL LIKE I STILL WHAT TO BEABLE TO GO AND DO THE DATING THING. THE ONLY THING ABOUT MY EX THAT DRIVES ME CRAZY IS THAT HE LIKES TO PARTY ALOT AND GO OUT ALL THE TIME I CAN'T I HAVE A KID. WHAT TO DO I NEED HELP PLEASE. HOW DO I DECIDE. I DON'T WANT TO HURT MY B/F BUT I HAVE FEELINGS FOR MY EX. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Of course you want to go out and party... you are still a child in ways.
This is one reason why advisors counsel kids to stay away from sex until they are old enough to deal with ALL the consequences. And one of the consequences is missing out on partying and doing teenage type things.
So what can you do? You probably should tell your boyfriend about your ex. He is probably going to find out anyway. Maybe if the two of you talk it out you will discover some ways for you to enjoy what you missed.
Perhaps the two of you could do some more exciting things together than the usual day to day activities. Get someone to babysit and go out on the town.
You don't want to lose a father for your child and break up all the family connections with his family. Think it over.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com