her going out with at least 15 guys each Friday/weekend that I'm not there is driving me bonkers
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hello. My Girlfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years now. I love her a ton and I plan on marrying her. But, ever since I have known her, she has had a TON of male friends. At first I was jealous and would get grumpy, but I would get over it after I met them. Well, now we are living away from eachother while I get my Masters degree and she works. She joined a club at her workplace that brings new hires together to hang out. Well, I had no qualms until I find out that ALL of them are guys of the same age. She now goes to bars with them, emails them daily, and has all their numbers in her cell phone. I try my hardest not to be jealous, but it is getting harder and harder seeing as how she seems to always find a new guy-friend to hang out with. She says she tries to get girls to go too, but they very rarely do. We have talked about it often and she gets very mad saying that she would have nothing else to do. I am stuck. Please help. I am a very understanding guy and I know she loves me, but her going out with at least 15 guys each Friday/weekend that I'm not there is driving me bonkers. Thanks!
A lot of guys would go bonkers in your situation.
I might even myself. However I would console myself by knowing that the trust that has been built up is strong. Her going out with 15 guys is certainly less threatening that her going out with one or two guys with whom she might make a stronger attachment.
Just try to hang tough and get through the remaining time.
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Perhaps they will help some.
I sure hope so!
-- from George
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