My boyfriend gave me a crappy vday card

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
i have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months and it was valentine's he gave me a crappy card and he didn't put any effort at all so i thought of a open- relationship,so i told my friend(male)wat he did and he said i deserve betta and should do the open relationship yet jus to find out he likes me and he told me if i do break up wit my boyfriend i want to go out wit u so he asked should i tell my boyfriend and how should i handle the situation Advice
Wait a minute, you're going to break up with him over a *card*?? It sounds like you've fallen hook, line and sinker for the Hallmark Commericals. Love is NOT about cards!! It is about the connection between two people. Lots of people who are completely in love with each other don't get each other ANYTHING for Valentine's Day. It's because their caring and love for each other is what is special, not some silly piece of paper from a store.

If this other guy is trying to break you guys up, he's not much of a friend, especially if he's trying to date you while you're still with someone else!!

You need to sit down and think about what is really important in life. Is it a piece of paper? Think about the other REAL things in your life with your boyfriend. Think about the things you share with each other and how you feel for each other. It is THOSE things that you should judge your relationship on. That is what is important in life.

Lots of guys simply aren't into shows of affection. That doesn't mean they don't *care*. It just means that in their family life, they never learned that those things were of value. So now you're going to slam him for the way his parents were?

Even if you do decide to break up with him, don't jump into a new relationship. Dating on the rebound is one of the WORST things you can possibly do. If you are breaking up, break up because you would rather be ALONE than with your current boyfriend. And then give yourself at least a month alone to think about what you want out of your next relationship.

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