We were going through a rough time and I made some bad decisions that led to our breakup
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I really want her back. We have been going out for 1 year and 1 month. She broke up with me and said that she loved me like a brother yet she doesn't even call me or talk to me on the net. We were going through a rough time and I made some bad decisions that led to our breakup. It also came from nowhere, we had to be the closest and cutest couple in school, "from what everybody said." One minute it's like we're in love, always talking on the phone, "although we didn't get to see each other too much" and then I make a few mistakes and she is just willing to give everything up. I tried everything to get her back but nothing would work. She even found out that I was so depressed that I couldn't eat and she still wouldn't go out with me. "Not that that is the reason I didn't eat." So after all of that I guess I'm asking you what should I do. Should I try to communicate with her. And if I do, how do I do it without her thinking I'm trying something to get her back. Also I heard that she might have a new boyfriend although I'm not sure...so if she does, how do I talk to her without intruding into her personal life and pushing us farther apart than we already are. Also when we broke up, she told her friends the story and it sounds if she exagerated it. So I think her friends, "who now that it is summer, I never talk to," keep encouraging her not to take me back thinking that I was a bad boyfriend. And she may have told her parents who would only naturally do the same thing. It seems as if all odds are against me. So again here are my questions...what should I do to get to speaking terms and what should I say and avoid saying to mess that up. Secondly what should I do to actually become good friends that talk alot. Third what should I do to get her back.
P.S. I would also greatly appreciate any extra advice.
The odds do seem to be against you.
The key element in getting her back is to become a best friend of her's again. You will have to figure out how to do that, but make sure you don't make the bad decisions you made before.
Also, keep in mind that some things are just not meant to be. And you getting back with her may be one of them. If you have that firmly in your mind, you will appear more confident with her (as strange as it may sound).
Good luck with your efforts!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com