he had alot of family problems that were bothering him, and he pushed me away because of this
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I was dating my boyfriend for 2 months although this wasnt a long time it was long enough to make me love him. I broke up with him 2 weeks ago, because he had alot of family problems that were bothering him, and it was almost as if he pushed me away because of this, i just wanted to be there for him as a friend as a girlfriend, and it hurt me that he couldnt express his feelings, he started to ignore my calls, not see me anymore, and acted as though he just wasnt interested in me, and in his own little world. When i broke it off with him he didnt seem to care, we didnt talk for a week, he then called me when he was drunk saying he nearly hit a pole whilst his mate was driving. i told him i missed him etc. The next nite i told him i seen his best mate at the pub i was at and 10 minutes later he was there at the same pub, after a few drinks i asked him why he called me last nite, and he told me that they say they call the ppl you love when you nearly die, he told my friends he loved me and wanted to work things out. He couldnt look me in the eyes all nite. He drove me home and i told him the only reason i broke up with him is because i knew he wanted to he said i was a smart girl and that he like me for the first month, but not anymore. After he left in a huff, i called him to ask him once more if this is what he wannts he said he didnt know he was angry and upset and couldnt talk. I called him the next day and apologiesd for my drunken behaviour and asked if we could catch up as friends that day, and he told me no not yet. My question is what is this guy thinking, he confusing me and hurting me at the same time?Does he still like/love me or not?or pushing me away because of his problems?
The guy is very confused so naturally you are too.
His problems are causing him to lack the ability to express his feelings. You would be wise to help him deal with his problems as a friend (once he allows you to return) and then becoming a girlfriend will be a natural outcome.
He needs help with his family problems and who better than you to help him? I konw it is difficult to make this happen but you have to try.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com