he does not want to be the type of guy who give up his friends for his wife
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I meet my boyfriend (now husband) almost 3 years ago. Let me start off by saying we have a WONDERFUL relationship. It's prob better then 99% of them out there. I just have one problem. He wants to be married to me and still have the single life (just without the girls). Let me explain: He is in the Air Force, he is a very fun person so he has no prob making friends. All his friends are single and like to go out to the clubs. So he goes with them, I'm not 21 yet so I end up spending my nights alone. I know he would never cheat on me, but it still bothers me. When I tell him this he tells me that he does not want to be the type of guy who give up his friends for his wife or g/f. I don't want him to give up his life, I just want him to be a good husband and respect my feelings. This weekend is the worse, we are getting ready to move to Japan so him and his friends went to Florida (a 2 hour drive) for the weekend. I stayed at home cuz I just got my wisdom teeth pulled and didn't feel like going, besides, I'd just be sitting in a hotel room all alone why they went out. I don't know what to do, I need to know a good compromise so we can both be happy.
He needs to give up some time with his friends and be with you more.
Don't let him get into this habit or he will continue it when you are over 21 and have a baby.
Have a deep, honest, and respectful conversation with him and explain to him that you need more time with him. Try to figure out what that means in number of day in the week. For example he can go out 3 days a week and stay with you 4 days. Or 2 and 5. Whatever the two of you think is reasonable.
I think you are letting him walk over you right now so my advice is to fix it.
-- from George
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