the arguement here isnt happening between my gf and i, but between my gf's best friend and i
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
ok. the arguement here isnt happening between my gf and i, but between my gf's best friend and i. ok im not entirely sure on how to start this so ill just give you an example of what she does. she use to be ok with us going out acutally she was pretty much the one who got us together. she also helped me with asking my gf out and helped me with alot of problems ive had with my gf. im thankful for that and ive told her that. any who, she treats me like dirt now and is always putting me down. she puts words into my mouth and says what im thinking when im not actually thinking that. heres an example: we were at mcdonalds with some friends before seeing a movie and i was the last one to order. i ended up not getting to sit next to my gf but im ok with that. any ways, my other friend had been being abusive twards me earlier and that really put me in a bad mood. so i was kinda sitting away from the group kinda by myself, not pouting or anything but more like getting away from the abusive so that i wouldnt get hit again. any ways, one of my friends asked me why i was sitting all by myself and my gf's best friend said "he's probably mad cause he doest get to sit by ****" but thats not why i was down. i told her that and she just kinda blew it off like a bitch. she also thinks that we spend to much time together, my gf and i, and she doesnt like that, i dont know why but w/e. i mainly do alot more stuff with my gf and not my other friends is because not only because i like her but because she doesnt treat me like crap like most of my friends. (im kinda the push over in the group). any ways, lately shes been being worse with the whole being mean to me thing and im ready to talk to her about it. but heres the thing. i dont want to put my gf in a bad posistion. on one side she will have me, she knows that her best friend treats me like crap and wants to defend me, but on the other side is her bf and doesnt want to lose her as a best friend. soo im not entirely sure on what to do here. im fine with talking to her about this but i just dont want to put my gf in a bad spot. please help. thank you.
Have you talked with your girlfriend about this?
What are her feelings about her best friend being mean to you? Ask her advice about what to say to her friend. That will make her feel better and more prepared for when you have your talk with the best friend.
Your girlfriend should take some initiative in talking to her friend. After all what kind of best friend would abuse the boyfriend?
If you do talk to the best friend just ask her how she can be so mean to the boy friend of her best friend.
My guess is that she is jealous.
-- from George
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