i feel she should be more upfront about things now.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost a year and offically together for 4 mos. she was with her ex- for 6 years and has a 5 year old son whom i adore. the problem is 2-fold. she has not yet introduced me to her family and i fell that she is more concered with his fellings than mine. example: her son's birthday is coming up and i will not be able to go because she is going to invite him instead. i understand that it is his son and that it is all about him. i have my own son so i really understand... but she has not told him how serious we are and still has not introduced me to her family. saying that she does not want to be rude to him. and as for the family she has told them but i have not met them, which does not make me real secure in the relationship. when is an appropreate time to meet the family and i over reacting to how she is handeling the ex. i feel she should be more upfront about things now. and if he can't handle me being around that is on him. i don't have that problem, i feel that we should be on the same page for his son's sake. help
You are right, she should be more upfront about things.
Tell her you are ready to meet her family and that you want to go to the birthday party. If she is resistance, offer to call her ex and explain to him how you feel... hopefully he is an understanding guy and will accept you.
If this party doesn't work out in your favor then demand that you meet her family... maybe a picnic or something. You have to do something to change the way things are. It isn't fair to you any other way.
If you make a strong enough case your girlfriend will probably go along with you on it. Give it a try. Tell her it's in the best interest of her son for everything to be upfront so he doesn't have to worry about what he can say about you to his grandparents and father.
-- from George
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