My female friend wants her ex back, I want her
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
hi, I have a little dilemma here. I like this girl but still do. At my homecoming this year I actually went with her to the dance we had fun and stuff. But afterwards at the party she started hitting on her ex. And that kind of made me made so mad. I watched them closely. Then they went down stairs playing video games so I wait for a bit. And they were not there so finally I saw them both laying down on the couch together and that got me frustrated.
I mean over the summer we became good friends we did all kinds of stuff together like partying, swimming, dancing. That's how I liked her. I mean we always had a blast. She used to smile at me and always loved to talk to me. But now when she sees me it's just like she hates my guts but why? What did I do? Please help me? I love her and all and I want her to be by my side?
It's common for people to go back to their ex-s - something drew them together in the first place and it sounds like in this case they might have broken up for a silly reason. They both seem to still care for each other.
If you guys were friends before, you should still be able to be friends now, with or without the ex in the picture. So maybe something happened that pulled you apart? If you really dislike her ex, then you might be acting differently around her now, more angry and upset. And that might make her less likely to want to be around.
You need a strong friendship before anything else can happen. So work on rebuilding the friendship. Find a way to talk to her alone, and say that you miss spending time with her. See if you can talk to her about why she feels differently about you now. Friends deserve that much from each other, honest talks about changes in the friendship.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com