Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hi I am a 16 yr. old girl. I live at home with my mother and her boyfriend. Her boyfriend can be abusive at times and he is a complete jerk, alcoholic, druggy exc... I hate being at home when he is here at first it was really tough because we just moved to a new city where i didn't know anyone. Well I met my current boy friend 9 mo. ago and this is going to sound bad but at first i just used him as an easy escape from my home because he lives right down the road and my mom really likes him. She even let's me stay the nights at his house and she never let me do that with my ex-boyfriend. Well my boyriend has become so contolling he doesn't want me to talk to anyone that's not in my family. If he doesn't like my friends he doesn't want me to talk to them , he say's they are sluts. One instance a few of my friends asked to go to a teen dance club with them and he flipped out and told me if i went that we were over with. And now i can't talk to any of those girls. I do anyways behind his back. He doesn't let me go to public pools because he doesn't want guys to see me in a bathing suit. I can't have anyone over at my house I have no life anymore I don't know what is wrong with me because i don't even love him I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend that i was with for 2 yrs. before my current boyfriend came around. The problem is my ex lives farther away and he doesn't have a car. i know I want to be with my ex again i really do love him and he's the only one i've ever loved and he ttreats me no where near the way my boyfriend now does. I don't understand what is wrong with me. Knowing all of this and that this relationship obviously isn't a healthy one i feel trapped i just can't seem to break away from my boyfriend because i don't know what i am gonna do when things get out of hand at home if i do leave my boyfriend. I have called the police so many times when my mom's boyfriend starts doing things and he will leave the house before the police get here and my mom will lie for him so he doesn't get in any trouble. Please help me!!!!
Your life sounds miserable.
If school were in session, I would advise you to see the school psychologist for help.
Yuur options are more limited during the summer, so I would recommend that you call a national hotline for teenagers who need help. It is the Youth Crisis Line and the number is 1-800-448-4663
Give them a try, they are professional therapists who could help you.
You have my best wishes!
-- from George
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