Having realised where we both went wrong we are both sad but by god I want him back
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi, my name is C. I recently broke up with my boyfriend N of a year and a half. We had a great relationship with a healthy sex life in the beginning. We did however argue quite alot.It frustrated us alot as we never really understood why we fought so much. I was hurt alot of the time and cried more than I ever have.He always said that when we started dating that he never imagined getting into a serious relationship let alone loving someone as much as he did. He moved 3 hours away and we talked about breaking up, that killed me so I gave in and dumped him. We got back together after the hardest 6 weeks for both of us. It lasted a few months and the night before Valentines day he broke up with me. He'd realised that he'd done nothing for Valentines and I love romance. I was tolally shell shocked! We saw each other for a while but I was busy with Law exam and he sports so that time is a blur but we were getting n well and he thought we were back together. I had a rebound with someone else and when I slept with the other person out of guilt I told N that there was nothing going on. Now we have been seeing each other as friends. We've talked about why we fought so much. He says that he wasn't romantic as I didn't make an effort to make the most of my figure and I said that I didn't do that as he never romanced me. We are both quite intelligent and strong charachters who love each other deeply but who place value in different things, making us fundamentally different. Having realised where we both went wrong we are both sad but by god I want him back.Should I leave things as they are and give him time or is that running the risk of loosing the man I love forever?Thank you, C
As you said, you are both intelligent and can analyze what your problems are.
So, why not get back together and fix the problems.
If you really want him back, get yourself back into shape. And if he wants to improve things, he needs to be more romantic. Neither of these are insurmountable and well within reach of two caring people.
Present him with this as a possibility and see what he says.
-- from George
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