i feel that i still have to prove my love
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
This is the first time i'vee seen your site and so far its been really helpful. Just like me, no offense everyone seems desperate for answers that im sure like me wouldnt let any one close to them know whats "really" going on in thier relationship for anyone to try to help them but themselves. Obviously that doesnt work cause here i am. All of your questions have been a sum of my relationship! He's cheated on me, he talks to other girls on the internet and on the phone. One time i even pretended to be another girl on the internet and made plans to meet him and he fell for it, even having one of my friends call him and pretend he was her. Even after he's the one who screws up it seems like im still the one begging for him to come back and trying to prove i love him. All he says if he's done it then why should he believe that im such an "angel" to him. The truth is i really am!He says he'll never trust me and what im looking for is a way to prove it. I always watch these movies and the sweet things guys do to finally prove it after being @sses! And i just hope that would be him one day. Well, this weekend I started the fight. I kinda just left him for my friends w/ no way home or anything. After i realized he really didnt do anything to deserve that i felt horrible and apologized and agreed that this time i was wrong. I dont think its that hes made at though, he thinks i cheated on him or something. And now after hes been the one cheating and not willing to erase girls #'s or stop talking to them i feel that i still have to prove my love. Just any advice all together? But, what im really looking for and maybe i shouldnt be is a way to prove it. Whats something sweet and Incredible i can do to prove it to him so that maybe hell finally realize im real? Thanks!
You can't prove your love to this poor excuse of a boyfriend.
He cheats on you so he naturally things you cheat on him. The only way to bring him around is to have a lot of heart-to-heart talks with him filled with honesty, trustfullness, loving, and respect. My guess is that he is incapable of having such conversations since he is so guilty or egotistical.
Why you want to stay with a bum like this is a mystery to me, but if you do try to get him into those conversations. They should also be gentle and understanding with no fighting. If he fights, resist the impulse to fight back. If he accuses you of cheating simply deny it but without making a big fuss over it.
That should be proof enough that you love him.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com