should i call again in case his phone is messed up? is he playing hard to get or what?

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first some back ground. I used to have a HUGE crush on this guy (lets call him Joey) In high school. We never got to go out he never talked to me. Then ten years later i was on a train and he saw me and starts talking to me. We hit it off and he gave me his business card and told me to call him so we could go out. A week later i call him it takes me four days to get a hold of him, and we go out on a date. We rent a movie and go to his place. He is so nice and sweet and has the same life goals that i have. After 3 hours he drove me home and we said goodnight and he said he had a good time. he tells me to call him whenever i want. A few days later i call him again and he says he needs a raincheck, so i call again two days later. We made plans for the next day. I told him my place was being exterminated and he said i could stay over. So i did. I made dinner which he liked, gave him a massage and then we laid down in bed to watch tv. Now during the date I kept getting phone calls from an ex, my mom, and several friends. He seemed to think something was up i dont know. maybe he thought i was talking to some guy, which i wasnt. But when we laid down he said "i thought you were such a go getter? I guess your all talk then" I then told him that i couldnt explain how i was feeling but that i was nervous. I told him that i wanted him. I then grabbed him and began to kiss him. I asked him if he had any condoms to which he said no. So we kissed some more and then i asked him if he wanted oral sex to which he said "only if u want to" i went ahead and did. Then we went to sleep, in the morning i woke him up with another blowjob! He seemed to enjoy it all. I got dressed and he called me a cab. I guess i left in a hurry but i felt strange and i knew he had stuff to do that morning. so when he walked me downstairs he said "talk to you soon" which he always says. I called him a week later left a message and he hasnt called back. I know he isnt a go getter and he is shy and doesnt go after girls. he likes to be pursued. I have no problem with that. But i got no answer. i called again and left another message and so far two days later nothing again. What should i do? He seemed to like me, what did i do wrong? should i call again in case his phone is messed up? is he playing hard to get or what? Advice
This is a stumper!

What's up with this guy? He seems to be interested and agreeable but he doesn't return your calls. Maybe he is what you say a guy who likes to be pursued. But why didn't he have any condoms? That is really strange especially since he knew you were going to spend the night.

Something is wrong with this guy and I don't know what to say except that you should not invest a lot of yourself into him. He hasn't shown that he deserves it yet.

On the other hand, if I understand you correctly, you went over to his house to spend the night and you received calls from your Mom, an ex, and several friends. What in the world does this say about you?

Maybe that's the reason he never returned your calls.

Good luck!

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