Now its to the point where she says she never wants me in her life again.
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Look I decided I would just ask you cause i read alot of this site and i learned alot already. We are both 16. DOnt be affraid to say anything cause there really isnt a thing I havent heard and i've done just about everything there is to do with my girlfriend. You know what I meand. Heres the issue, I have been with this girl for a year and 2 months. She broke up with me with 2 weeks ago, saying she wanted a break. She always told me how much she loved me, we had great times together and everything. We were each others first in having sex. Im sure you know theres more to the story, like stuff such as she was telling me she wasnt happy anymore. She was planning on a break, that kinda thing. One thing I didnt like and would complain to her about a lot was that she would hang out with this one guy all the time. They would both tell me they were just friends blah blah blah. Since she broke up with me, she has been with him a lot more. I keep telling her how I really dont like this being apart, and I want another chance with her, but I seem to make it worse every time. First she said maybe she would again, but it kept sounding less convincing. Now its to the point where she says she never wants me in her life again. Im going absolutely insane because I love this girl with all of my heart, and she did too. Now her and that guy are doing things together ALL the time. Things she would never do with me, like go running or something. The guy tells me he likes her now, alot for that matter. But she still says she just wants to be friends with him. So help me here, Does she want him? Is she doing this to hurt me? How do I get her back? Will I ever get her back? Is it gonna take me a REALLY long time. Im willing to do anything, I try every day to remind her of good times, and let her know i still do love her and im waiting. Just please help me, Its having a major effect on my life causing me to be very depressed and doing things that I shouldnt be doing.
You are doing the best you can to get her back and that is the most important thing you can do now.
Continue to tell her you love her and that you are waiting for her. Take good care of yourself as she will pick up on your firmness under pressure. Hoping that this is just a temporary thing she is doing, you can better handle the situation.
Nobody can predict what is going to happen or how long it will take. All you can do is to take one day at a time and do the best you can with it. Be the best friend you can be to her as she will appreciate that a lot.
You have all my best wishes in this difficult situation. Don't be shy about sharing this problem with your parents and if things get too tough you can ask them about you seeing a professional counselor to help you out.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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