Sometimes she says hi to me and I say hi back. BUT, she never TALKS to me
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hey, what's up? I'm the same guy with the "How to find a girl" topic. I just changed my email a tad. Ok, here goes:
I'm sure you remember the girl I asked to the dance back in January who turned out to have a bf? I'll call her "B". BTW, still no luck with girls, but don't worry, I'm learning to deal with that. I'm just a little confused here. I'll try my best to keep this short!
Here's the thing: Back in May, I went to my junior prom without a date, but i just HAD to go. "B" had a date and I have known him for a long time. I drove, and I saw her with some friends. We got there at the same time! The good thing is she acknowledhed my presence as I hoped. So I'm thinking, "Maybe we are still friends." I think this because I'm always confused about our "friendship." This was before it started. For the first two hours, I just hung out with my friend and didn't dance at all, but something happened. One of my long-time friends "pulled" me onto the dance floor, and guess what? I ended up right next to "B". I was like she was happy to see me! So I danced with her and her date and having a really great time.
She had to leave early, but she wanted me to stay and have fun, so I did. I'm thinking, "She must still like me!" I ended up having the best night ever!
Fast forward: Here is where it gets confusing again. Sometimes she says hi to me and I say hi back. BUT, she never TALKS to me. Once, I said that she looks tired, and she agreed.
Last weekend, she took the S.A.T.s. I was BRAVE and I called her! When she found out it was me calling, she sounded really excited! We ended up having this really cool convo about some stuff. This was on the 4th.
Then in school, it's right back to the "hi", and the not talking in person. She says "hi" to me first, and I love when she does that.
Here is where the jealousy part comes in. She'll talk to other guys and not to me, but i want really doubt it's because she hates me I KNOW she doesn't hate me, or she wouldn't be saying "hi to me, right? I talk to a few other girls and that's good.
The lowdown: I KNOW it's normal for girls to have guy friends, and vice versa. I respect that. It's just that I am a little jealous when it comes to her guy friends. Most of them I know. I was planning on asking her to sign my yeakbook. I'm sure she will!
What I am asking is are we or are we not friends? I'm sure we are, but I want to know what you think. And what do I do about my jealousy? I'm a little confused over this whole thing.
P.S. School's over in a week!
Jenn, I would like you to reply, please.
Sorry, Jenn is not available.
Sounds like things are improving for you and I am happy about that.
You should try to initiate a conversation with "B" because otherwise it's just going to be "Hi...Hi" ... if you want more you are going to have to be the one thinks of things to say and keeps the conversation going. It's obvious she likes you because of how she talked to you when you called her. Congratulations on doing that!
The jealousy is a natural reaction to not having her and seeing her talking to other guys the way you want to. Like I said above, it's your responsibility to start and maintain the conversation.
I'm happy things are going so well for you!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com