I simply believe that I am not fun, beautiful or intelligent enough.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am really unsure what to do. I broke up with my ex boyfriend just over a year and a half ago. I had been with him for seven and a half years and had never been jealous. Then I started seeing someone else, I was seeing him for a year and a half, but broke up with him five days ago. Throughout our relationship I would often suggest that we broke up, or I'd leave him, so now he's very fed up with me, and I don't think that there's any hope for us. The trouble is, I think I have realised now that is because I have become a jealous person. I don't have a very high opinion of myself and I feel very depressed at the moment. I love him very much, but if I can't have him back, which is my fault, I want to make sure that I don't behave like this again. Do you have any advice for me on how to break this cycle? I simply believe that I am not fun, beautiful or intellegent enough. I can't stand the way I now feel about myself but I don't know where to begin in making myself feel better and going on to have a loving relationship, and maybe even him back in my life. Any ideas? Thank you x
The way to feel fun, beautiful, and intelligent is to be with someone who makes you feel that way.
It is, of course, easier to attract someone like that if you already feel that way about yourself. One way to improve your self-esteem is to do fun things as often as you can; dress and groom yourself with care; and read newspapers, newsmagazines, and books. All these will make you feel better about yourself.
Regarding jealousy: whenever jealous feelings arise attack them immediately as strongly as you can. Say to them "Go away, he is my guy and he loves me." After saying these words hundreds of times, the jealous feelings will eventually give up and stop bugging you.
Hope these suggestions help you some!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com