Breaking the Ice
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I AM 18 years old and even now i don't have guts to talk with a girl on a simple issue i mean like talking about classes or something else.... tell me the way to remove my fear, and i start having relations of friendship with girls.. and i am good looking... girls alway catch me looking but i am of no use... please do something for me
What you're talking about is Breaking the Ice, making that first initial contact. It can be a scary thing for anyone to do! But it all comes down to practice. The more you do it, the easier it will be, the more comfortable it will be.
I have tons of tips here -
but people usually get most nervous doing this with people they are interested in. So start practicing on people you are NOT interested in. I'm serious. Go to a mall and choose a random person with a watch. Make sure there's no big clock around :) Go up and ask them what time it is. They'll tell you, say thank you, walk away. Yes, it'll be a bit scary. It's a stranger. In the stores in the mall, go up to the sales clerks and ask them reasonable questions. Like "Do you have this in a size 7" or whatever. Or "What time do you close on Saturday". Again, you're teaching yourself not to fear initial contact with strangers.
As you do this, start going for cuter and cuter people - i.e. people you are more and more interested in. You'll find that as you work your way up the interest scale, it still won't be as scary, because you're already used to doing this ...
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com