How can I allow myself to trust him and not be so jealous
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for about a year and a half. The first time that we broke up he went after an old crush but she lied to him and turned him down. He got over it and we started dating again. I know he loves me very much because he has changed for me and we have worked out alot of our problems. But I'm still jealous of the fact that he's somewhat friends with her. He says he doesn't have any feelings for her but I'm afraid that the past will repeat itself. He has moved on from the past but I haven't. How can I allow myself to trust him and not be so jealous and move on from the past? It really tears me up that I'm acting so childish about it but I don't know how to stop it. Please help.
Jealousy is a nasty habit that can ruin a good relationship.
The way to get rid of it is to fight it with everything you have. Whenever a jeaousy thought or feel arises you have to attack it with statements like "He's my boyfriend and he loves me, so go away." After doing this a thousand times (literally) the jealousy will give up since it realizes it can no longer affect you.
Good luck, George
p.s. we have tips on jealousy at: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/23682
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com