WHEN I SAW HIM WITH HIS NEW GF AND HE SAW ME WITH MY NEW BOYFRIEND WE BECAME ANGRY WITH EACH OTHER
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
MY SITUATION IS A LITTLE DIFFERENT FROM THE OTHER CASES IVE READ. WELL MY EX AND I STARTED OUT AS REAL CLOSE FRIENDS. AFTER A WHILE I GUESS HE BEGIN TO LIKE ME AND I LIKED HIM TOO. SO WE STARTED GOING OUT AS BF AND GF. WE WERE TOGETHER FOR FOUR YEARS THROUGH OUT HIGH SCHOOL AND EVENTUALLY HE BECAME MY FIRST LOVE. AFTER THAT WE FELT WE WERE TO YOUNG TO MAKE A FULL DEDICATION TO EACH OTHER AND THAT WE SHOULD SEPARATE FOR OUR SENIOR YEAR AND IF OUR FEELINGS WERE TRUE TO EACH OTHER THEN WE WILL EVENTUALLY GET BACK TOGETHER AROUND GRADUATION TIME. WHEN I SAW HIM WITH HIS NEW GF AND HE SAW ME WITH MY NEW BOYFRIEND WE BECAME ANGRY WITH EACH OTHER AND STOPPED SPEAKING ALL TOGETHER. THEN AT GRADUATION WE MADE EYE CONTACT AND I COULD FEEL THE CHILLS ALL OVER MY BODY AND WE SMILED AT EACH OTHER, LATER THAT DAY WE DECIDED WE WANTED TO HOOK BACK UP WITH EACH OTHER.(KEEP IN MIND WHEN WE DECIDED TO TAKE A BREAK WE HAD RULES FOR EACH OTHER SUCH AS NO BABIES BY ANYONE ELSE.)WELL WE WERE BACK ON FOR A MONTH AND I WASN'T TO KEEN ON RUSHING BACK INTO SEX SO WE DIDN'T WE JUST HUNG OUT ALOT. ONE DAY WHEN EVERYTHING IS FEELING ALL GOOD MY FRIEND TOLD ME THAT MY EX HAD A BABY ON THE WAY WITH ONE OF THE GIRLS HE DATED WHEN WE WERE BROKE UP. NOW HE WANTS TO EXPLAIN AND THEN ON TOP OF THAT DENY IT SO I WAITED AND HE TOLD ME HE WOULD HAVE HER ABORT THE BABY CAUSE HE DIDN'T WANT TO LOSE ME AND I TOLD HIM IF SHE HAS THE BABY IM GONE. WELL OF COURSE SHE HAD THE BABY AND I LEFT HIM, IM WITH SOMEONE ELSE NOW WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 6 YEARS AND IN THOSE SIX YEARS ME AND MY EX HAS SEEN EACH OTHER ALMOST EVERYDAY WITHOUT SPEAKING TO EACH OTHER. HE SPEAKS TO MY NEW MAN AND HAS SINCE WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER. BUT LAST WEEK I CAUGHT HIM STARING AT ME EVERYDAY I WOULD CATCH HIM JUST STARING AND IT STARTED TO BRING THOSE OLD FEELINGS BACK AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO I CAN'T CONTROL MY HEART I LOVE MY MAN, BUT WILL ALWAYS HAVE LOVE FOR MY FIRST LOVE. NOW MY EX DOESN'T SPEAK TO MY MAN. OUT OF THE BLUE HE JUST STARTS TALKING TO ME AND SMILING ALOT AND TRYING TO BE ALL IN MY FACE. ITS SO HARD BECAUSE ALL HIS CHARM STILL HAS AN EFFECT ON ME. I LOVE MY MAN WE HAVE A DAUGHTER TOGETHER AND I DONT WANT TO MESS UP WHAT I ALREADY GOT, BUT I ALSO LOVE MY EX TOO. WHAT SHOULD I DO? I'M IN LOVE WITH TWO PEOPLE.
Since you have to make a mess, choose the one that will hurt the fewest people.
This means to stay with your boyfriend and daughter. You will still have one love so you will be happy.
You and your ex have a chemical thing going but that doesn't mean you have to be with him. Let him go his way and you stay where you are.
Best wishes to you!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com