recently we started kissing when we were alone
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I'm really good friends with this guy in my year, but a couple of months ago i realised i wanted more than just friendship from him. Over the past month or two, ive been going round his place almost every week, and each time i did, we were always very physically close, and then recently we started kissing when we were alone. While all this was going on he had a 'semi-girlfriend' as he descibed it, and he told me that he still liked my friend, with whom he had gone out with 3 times before. After kissing me for the first time, he told me not to tell anyone and i thought he had regreted it, so i was rather suprised when he did it again. I was very upset and confused and turned to my friends for help and one of them tried to talk to him about it, but he got all panicky and ran off. Then after school, he sent me a load of worried texts asking if i was ok, and kept ringing me. My phone was on silent so i didnt realise, which caused him to worry more. he said in the texts tha he cared about me and wanted to make sure i was ok. he has recently broken up with his girlfriend and asked to meet up with me over this half term. Ive agreed and when i see him i want to be able to sort all this out once and for all. I'm soo confused, when we are alone its like we are a couple, but infront of other people hes not as intimate though he still talks to me alot most of the time, although he does have a habit of ignorin people sometimes. Ive been going crazy about this and i cant get him out of my head, not very helpful as im trying to revise for my GCSE's at the moment! its been making me very depressed alot recently, but when im with him, im the happiest ive been in years. I really love him and i really dont know what to do. Please help! thank you for you time.
Seems to me you have a very good thing going.
The glitch is that he won't act like a couple in public. First off, lots of people are shy about public display of affection. Secondly, he has connected you with something "forbidden" since he had a girlfriend when he met you.
How about you taking the initiative and when you are in public put your arm around his waste and hold hands. If he shys away then tell him that it is important to you.
Your studies are important right now so either get this problem worked on fast or decide you will wait until after the exams.
Either way your mind will be more at ease.
-- from George
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