He tells me that he wanted to sleep alone and that he'd call me in the morning
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I actually have two questions.
First question is I'm 23 and just lost my virginity a few weeks ago, it didn't hurt and I didn't bleed as much but my boyfriend and I recently made love again this past weekend (we haven't since our first time together)and I bled a little bit more am I ok? I mean it wasn't massive but a few drops and I got a little scared it had stopped like a minute later but I just wanted to know.
My second question is actually about my relationship with him. We are going on five months and we said nothing serious just to let things be cool is what we call it and it has worked. We do everything together from now being business partners to car shopping and having family picnics with our families so its great. Weekends are usually our time to relax and unwind and concentrate on us and dating, this past weekend I thought we were going to hang out because time was not on our side last time we got together, so I emailed me telling him I was good to go this weekend and gave him two options. Well he responds that friday night he was going to the bar with work friends and i was fine with that thought ok saturday we could go but no apparently he had a friend's bbq and I felt like I was placed on the back burner you know? Wondering well I'm not good enough to show to his work friends, though I've met some it was just the point of how come I couldn't go. So he calls me saturday while he's at the bbq and invites me and I didn't tell him the real reason why but I said no I had other plans how come he didn't invite me in the first place is what i wanted to say. Well the next day we planned to spend together and he calls me in the morning and invites me to a family bbq and I felt reassured like I was actually wanted, we went back to his place and my intention was to spend the night and we made love and he asked when I was going home and I told him I wasn't that is if he wanted me to stay. He tells me that he wanted to sleep alone and that he'd call me in the morning so that we can spend another day together, I felt rejected. He lives with a female roommate and I trust him its her I don't trust. I'm starting to see things differently since we had this talk last week, there was a problem with my father and he said he didn't want to cause any stress and thought we should take a break, later he calls me and said he over reacted and didn't mean it; what do you make out of the situation? Maybe its my head playing with me I honestly think it is,I hope it is.
Question 1: things are ok, your hymen was entirely broken the first time and so it bled a little the second time.
Question 2: it sounds like your boyfriend might be feeling a little bit pressured by last weekend. This is shown by his preference that you go home instead of spending the night. I would be worried about any of his actions at this point. If he continues to be distant, then you should start to worry and ask him for an explanation.
-- from George
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