I really like this woman and I want a long-term relationship with her
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I really like this woman and I want a long-term relationship with her. We known each other for over three years and we used to be best friends and even dated once back then in high school. We were immature at the time and I wasn't good at the whole dating thing and became too nice to her and that pushed her away. We stopped talking to each other, but we were still on good terms it's just it was hard talking to each other. We kept in touch but didn't really talk much at all and only spoke to each when we bumped each other out of the blue. For the first time in over two years, we have been talking on the phone twice a week for the past month and we plan to go out this weekend, things seem to be like how they used to. So far she is everything I want in a woman. She is very close with her family, volunteers for the community, pursuing a career, religious, and she loves to help others. We are very similiar and I've dated alot for the past two yrs. and I still think about her. We seem to interact well with each other, she is very talkative to me, and she always tells me how much she admires me. The thing is, she has a boyfriend of two years, so I don't really know how to pursue her the "right" way since she has a boyfriend. I don't want to be a gf stealer, because I'm not here to hurt anyone but I just really like her. It doesn't really bother me that she has a bf because I enjoy being around her, but I want to have at least one relationship with her again. I'm dating other women but they are not serious, but I'm lost because I don't know what to do. At the same time, I'm dating another woman and just trying to gain some more dating experience.I'm not trying to be a "player" and I really do have serious intention with her and want a long term relationship with ehr. I always had a thing for her, but I just don't know what to do. I"m very patience and I don't mind having just the friendship with her right now because I really want to take the time to get to know her again. I want a chance to be her boyfriend in the future. Anyhow, what is the best approach in this situation to pursue her? Thanks alot.
You seem to be pursuing her just fine so far.
You talk twice a week and you are going out. This probably shows that her relationship with her boyfriend is not very strong. Why not ask her about her boyfriend and see what she says.
My advice is to keep on doing what you are doing and be there waiting if she splits with her boyfriend.
-- from George
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