She claims that she never wants to because she's not in the mood
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I feel really embarassed to ask this question, but my girlfriend never seems to want to have sex with me. I mean, it's usually a month or two before we actually do anything. We've been together for a year, and early on, things were happening all the time. Then, shortly after we started doing it, everything slowed down. I mean EVERYTHING. Not just sex. Just less of everything. I was her first, so I'm thinking she might be scared? I don't know! She claims that she never wants to because she's not in the mood and that school's interfered with that, but for 2 months??
I had a sit down with her a couple nights ago and told her how I was honestly feeling. I told her that I thought it wouldn't be that important, but sex is a very important thing for me in a relationship. I asked her if I was doing something wrong, she said no. Asked her if she was losing interest, said no and that she would tell me if she ever started to.
What struck me is that I told her that I felt like I was losing attention. And then she said the same thing. She said, she felt like I stopped paying her attention. And then I said I started losing attention when I noticed that was becoming more distant, physically.
I don't know what to do. I told her, but I don't know if that's enough. Please help me. Thanks.
She told you that you don't pay as much attention to her as you used to do.
So, start paying more attention... but don't make it so obvious that you are doing it to get more sex. Do it because you want to.
That's what you can do.
What you both can do is to see a professional marriage counselor and try to get the problem resolved. It really needs attention.
-- from George
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