Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hello, well yesterday me and my girlfriend 'broke up' she said she just wanted a break, well actually her friend came up to me while she sat back and talked iwth other people. He friend said that she still wanted to be friends etc and that it was over, and I walked off, I am completely devestated, I love her more then I have loved anyone else! And we were at a track meet s ya' friend etc, they were all telling me not to be sad, girls giving me hugs, some saying I was too good, but I know she was too good for me. Well before I left with a friend to get a ride home he had me talk to her, and she said "Well I still love you, you know that right?" I said "I think", then she says the most devestating thing which lead me back to an old habit she said "Well I love you, but I just don't like you like I used to, and I need a break for a few days to think about it." And for further refrence I have severe Depression which you can imagine doesn't help. But anyways. When I got home I cried for hours and well I just kinda saw a knife on my shelf, and I cut my upper arm so no one could see. But what hurt me the msot is that when talking to another friend before that they had just been on the phone with one of my girlfriends friends, and she had told my friend that my girlfriend called her about a week ago saying that she loved someone else, a guy whom I hate.
But you wanna know what she said last night? Well after I got done saying "I'd take a bullet for my friends but I'd rip out my own eyes and tounge, and anything else including taking a bullet for you" she starts to cry and says "I wanted a break until you said that and it relized thatI don't want to be with any other guy except you. I love you too much."
And I want her back soo much, I know when she told me she still loved me she was lieing, a bouquet of lies I got yesterday. But I love her, I truely do and I don't want anyone except her, no one would be better then her. And I don't want to self-injure again, please help me, I need her.
First off, if you have the desire to self-injure any more please call the national hotline 1-800-SUICIDE [1-800-784-2433]
Regarding your girlfriend take her word that she just wants some time off. Don't pressure her. Remind her you love her every so often so there is no doubt about it.
Try not to dwell on this too much. It will just make you more depressed and sad. Concentrate on school work and whatever else you find interesting like sports.
Best of luck to you!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com