My girlfriend hits and slaps
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
My girlfriend hits. She thinks whenever I do something that she dosen't like she should hit me. It's stupid and annoying and...well, painful. I ask her to stop and she says its the only way to make me listen to her.
She thinks its the same as when I tickle her or tap her on the butt. These are things that she is constantly changing her mind about, meaning sometimes she allows it, even likes it sometimes and then gets super aggressive about it at others.
How can I get through to her so that she realizes that she's hurting me and the things I do don't hurt. Especially when she hits me, slaps me, in the face for no reason. Is there any way I can get her to just talk to me about things versus slap first, think later?
One approach is to compromise.
Promise her you won't tickle her or tap her if she promises that she won't hit or slap you.
If that doesn't work then tell her that if she doesn't cut it out then you will have to break up with her. This would be a good thing to do because hitting and slapping are very rude and antagonistic habits to be in. She must have learned it from her parents or siblings.
You don't want to be around someone like that, you deserve better.
-- from George
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