I'm Too Jealous of my Girl
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
theres this girl i like, and im currently workin on a relationship between us. However there is a problem, i get kinda jealous and suspicious of others around her, i know this is bad and im sorry, but i cant control it, i get so much doubt. furthermore, since valentines is comin up, im even more worried, i need some help please.
i really like this girl and im very jealous of others, but i dont wantabe and im worried that if i do something wrong, all my work on a relationship will be ruined
It's good that you realize how serious a problem jealousy can be. You can easily drive her away, even though she would love the rest of you!
However, you say you can't control it. Of course you can! It's just a feeling inside you, like any other feeling you have. You may hate a teacher, but it doesn't mean you go beat him up! If you care for this girl, you have to learn to trust her. Period. If you can't trust her, the entire relationship with fail.
I have pages on jealousy here -
you need to develop more faith in her, and in yourself that you have something special that she cares about. If you're upset every time she talks to another guy, or any time she's out of your sight, you guys won't last long. But if you trust her, that is what holds people together.
Build up your relationship. It shouldn't be so fragile that you have to lock her up in a cage and blindfolder her to all else in life in order for her to stay with you. That's not love, that's imprisonment. Love is about two people who willingly stay with each other through thick and thin, no matter what else is in the world. If your aim is to really be with this girl, learn to trust her and to feel like you're worthy of HER trust.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com