my fiance is always around her when she comes over
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hello I m j* I ve been having problems with my fiance. His brother has a friend that comes over late at night and doent leave until late. But my fiance is always around her when she comes over. She flirts with him and he flirts with her but he says nothing is going on. I want to believe him but can't. The other day he said he wanted to drive her car so they go to race her friend to the end of the road but then this girl said she had to pay her elctric bill at 11:00 at night so they went on and did that then she had to take movies back before they were late so they didnt get back for a while. The whole time they were gone i couldnt but think about him pulling to the side of the road and them doing something. What should i do ? I can i not be jeolous about something like this can you help me ? should i marry him next year? i am 18
My advice is not to marry until you have beaten your jealousy problem.
You can train yourself to not be jealous by refusing to allow a jealous thought to remain in your mind and by not saying jealous things. If you refuse an idea to come into your mind (by telling it to go away) then the idea will give up after a while.
Everyone has a little jealousy in them, but it should never become a problem or a habit. Jealousy can ruin a good relationship.
Meanwhile, please read our tips on jealousy:
Best of luck!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com