I was recently in an 8 year relationship. We broke up 5 months ago due to trust issues
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I tried looking to see if someone else was in the situation I am in, but I cannot find it. I was recently in an 8 year relationship. We broke up 5 months ago due to trust issues. We both have been seeing other people. The man I am seeing I have been seeing for 2 months and he has already he has started to fall in love with me. I have strong feelings for him but not love yet. I still love my ex. For the past 3 months I have moved on and I havnt wanted to work anything out with him because of this man I have been seeing. My ex called me today saying we can now work things out and change to be togather again. Iam confused and i dont even know if this makes any sense. I love him and now apart of me wants to work it out with him and now I sort of wish I didnt have these strong feelings for the man I have been seeing. Do I try and work it out with him or just forget it and move on?
It's hard to throw away eight years.
My advice is to try to work things out with your ex. The odds are much better that you will have a good relationship with him than your new beau.
The trust issues you mentioned are worrisome. After eight years, you should have developed trust in each other. Trust can be strengthened by communications, honesty, respect, and of course, faithfulness.
Best wishes to you in this endeavor!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com