I want to see him but i know if I do things are just going to be a lot harder on me

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I've been having a hard time dealing with this breakup. I'm not sure what I should do. I have so many differnt thoughs about this. I know I need to get over it and move on but its hard. I know he loves me and cares about me but I dont understand how he an sit there and tell me how much he cares about me and he wants to be with me but then he can sit there and talk about another girl when he knows that hurts me the most. I understand they are only friends but when he tells me shes been calling him it kills me, he says he wants to be with me but he doesn't because he likes being single and not having to worry about me and what im doing. He says when he sees me he just wants to hold me and kiss me. I'm just so confused with it all. He said we broke up because he wanted to be single. Its been about a week sence we have seen each other and he says hes going crazy without me. I want to see him but i know if I do things are just going to be alot harder on me. A month before we were going out I slept with another guy and he calls it cheating becuase he was coming to see me every day. We dated for 9 months after that untill about 2 weeks ago he decided he watned to be single. I know its been bothering him during the relationship and he says he doesn't think he can ever trust me again. I told him I cant be with him untill he can trust me and I told him I've done everything i can say and do to regain his trust its all up to him now. I know that puts alot of pressure on him but its the truth. Please help me get threw this.

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You are two people who don't trust each other.

That is the important thing you two need to work on if you want to get back together. The tools to use to help mend this relationship are communications, honesty, and respect.

Sometimes it takes a breakup like this to show couples how much they mean to each other. The key element is that both parties have to really want to makae it work. So find out if he really wants to make it work and then start working on your trust issues. His trust issue sounds bogus to me, and your trust issue also sounds bogus. So you two have a lot of room to compromise with.

Good luck!

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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