I am envious of her relationship with this guy
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I've been with my girlfriend for two years and she has always had a number of close male friends. She recently got a new job that required to relocate and we are now in a long distance relationship. Over the last few months, she has become close with a male co-worker. My girlfriend quickly became very fond of this guy and one day told me "I can't wait for you to meet him...he is so nice." I later met her co-worker and I agree that he is a nice person. However, when I visit my girlfriend he calls her 3 or more times a day. On one occasion he called my girlfriend to invite her to a party. She declined the invitation but gave him permission to call her after the party even though she and I had plans for the night. They also spend a significant amount of time together on the weekend watching movies. If I call her on the weekend, he is usually over her apartment or likely to stop by. I believe that my girlfriend loves me, but I can't help but think that this guy wants to develop a romantic relationship with my girlfriend. I want my girlfriend to have companionship because she doesn't have any longtime friends or family nearby but I am envious of her relationship with this guy. What should I do?
You are handling the situation very well.
Tell her the same thing you wrote and she will better understand what you are feeling. She should reassure you that she is not romantically interested in him so you will feel better.
Call her frequently and visit whenever you can. Also use the internet if you can't reach her by phone. Remind her of you everyday in a positive way.
This situation would be tough for anyone to deal with, you should congratulate yourself for how well you are doing.
-- from George
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