Does this break-up seem temporary or have we passed into the friends zone?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My ex and I dated since November and just broke up last week (end of April). We got along great and had so much in common. We both really thought that we were going to last. Anyway, the last 2 weeks of the relationship she started acting different: not as sweet, tired, never wanting to really do much. It also doesn't help that I work late and by the time I get off work most of the normal world is asleep. But then we took a trip together and had the best time. I thought everything was back to normal, but then when we got back she started acting different again. At the end of the week she called me over and told me she "needs a break". She said she stills loves me but doesn't know why she was acting like she was and that I didn't deserve to be treated like that. I think it could be stress over school and work. Nothing I know of happened to cause this sudden change in her attitude.
I love her very much and want her back.
I spoke to her for the first time since the breakup 5 days later. We talked and laughed on the phone together like we normally would. She invited me to hang out with her and her girlfriends the next night. I did and we had a great time. We slow danced together once and then when her friends were leaving she asked me if I could give her a ride home. Of course I agreed. On the way home it was somehow brought up that she would be happy for me if I had a date with another person, but she wouldn't want to see me with this other girl. Then she asked how I would feel and I replied, "jealous".
I dropped her off and we stood outside talking for a good 10 minutes, hugging and smiling for no good reason. She said she was glad I came and we should do this more often.
My question is...is she just being friendly or is it something more? Does this break-up seem temporary or have we passed into the friends zone?
It's hard to say what is going on.
You need to have a heart-to-heart talk with her and re-discuss how she feels. That's the only way you can find out. Make it clear to her that you still love her and would like to go back to your earlier relationship.
My best wishes to you!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com