Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hi my name is Meg and I am 15 years old.I have had a crazy life and have already experienced alot of thing that people in their 20's find out about.I was with my boyfriend for almost 2 years.I moved in with him because I was having problems at home.His mother got us a house together on our own.I was going to school and he dropped out because he never really enjoyed it,he is alot more mature than most 15 yr old guys.Everything was going fine.I was stressed out because of money issues and we couldnt afford anything really and his mother is on a pension.He was wonderful when ever I got into a bad mood,he was always there for me and always so patient.I used to say some terrible things to him,but he'd forgive me every time.After a while of living together,he started getting upset about the fact that I was going to school and he wasnt there to protect me or make sure no guys spoke to me.He was always possesive but after time,it got alot worse.It got so bad that I didnt go to school in order to keep him happy.He couldnt get a proper job because he was under age and whoever he worked for would rip him off.His mother had a thing with money,she ws always spending every last cent.She'd gone into bankrupcy a few years earlier and that was also the reason shed divorced my boyfriends dad,she was constantly spending his money.So anyways I am trying not to turn this into an 8 pg novel.But we broke up 4 times that year but always ended up getting back together.The way I got him back those times was pretty much grovelling and crawling back.We broke up over a month ago but this time it was different.I was the one who walked out.(long story short)I walked out because his sister had a boyfriend who did drugs and lived out of his car because he was running from the police.Well my bf's sister was always over,but never paying for anything and she hated me because I was happy and so was her brother.So any way my bf started being horrible to me because his sisters bf was like that to her.I dont want to grovel or crawl back.But I do know what type of person me ex really is and I think we have something that we shouldnt let go of.I dedicated 2 yrs of my life to him and I love him more than anything!The only problem is that he lives 2 and a half hours from where I am and theres no way I can get there,so its not like he can see that i can live without him.Or I can do the whole jealousy thing.I know were meant to be together,I am desperate.I am sorry that I have turned this into a novel but I am really at the end of my rope.Please help me!
You are both 15 and too young to try to handle all of these things that are happening to you and things which you are doing to each other. It is surprising that you have gotten as far as you have and I admire you for that.
My advice is to stay in school and get your high school diploma and, if possible, go on to college.
If you and your ex are meant to be then it will happen. Keep thinking that and you will be fine!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com