but now he knows that i like him and i still dont know if he likes me... does he like me?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hi, im really confused about a situation i am in right now. it should actually be very clear because the reason i came out in the open and told this guy i like him was because i wanted clarity. i really wanted to know if he liked me too. it really seemed like he did. we used to sit next to each other and we hit it off wonderfully and i hadnt gotten that close to a guy in a long time. we flirted all the time and it came naturally and everyone else joked about us being together, even though we really werent. but then we didnt sit next to each other anymore and we sort of drifted, although we kept looking at each other randomly and he came up to me several times to talk to me randomly and i'd still see him around in the hallways and everything. i wrote him a note telling him he meant more to me than just a classmate and after that things were awkward but then we still approached each other. i was getting to my wits end not knowing how he truly felt... so one day i randomly went up to him and told him i needed to talk to him. at first he didnt get it and asked me "what is it?" but then i told him we needed to be alone when i told him. so i met him later on and told him that i like him. i guess he had had time to think about it and it was probably obvious to him what i wanted to tell him. so i told him that i like him and wanted to know if he likes me too. he seemed to know what to say. he said that he really likes talking to me and everything but he doesnt have time for a relationship. he said he'd already tried having a relationship with another person and it didnt work out because of the time issue. i wasnt meaning to ask him for a relationship and was surprised that he brought it up immediately, although i guess a relationship is implied when you tell someone you like him. he never answered my question as to whether or not he likes me. i think it would have been easier on both of us if he had said "i only like you as a friend" so then i'd know for sure he doesnt like me. now im even more confused because he still looks at me and acts as he always has. he's a shy guy, i guess, but he still looks at me and his friends look at me and he even follows me. it was weird because i was walking alone and i realized he was RIGHT behind me. i randomly look behind me and see him looking at me and i am very confused. i know that it isnt all just in my mind. i still really like this person but would like to move on and dont know how. i dont know what else i can do because i am not about to just tell him again that i like him... i've already made myself vulnerable enough as it is. and telling him a second time would be completely pointless. but now he knows that i like him and i still dont know if he likes me... does he like me? i'd understand if he doesnt, but he still acts like he always has and stares at me even more obviously.... what could this mean?
You had the courage to ask him the first time so why not ask again? You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Ask him if he's thought it over and whether he wants to have a relationship or is time still a problem. If he says time is still a problem then ask what you seem to really want to know: do you like me?
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com