We Started with Sex, Now we're Taking it Slow
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have messed things up. I slept with this new man I have been seeing for three weeks. We rushed into sex and now we are "taking it slow" . And he lives an hour away and we only date about two to one times a week.
I do not want to lose him and even though we chat on line and over the phone, I am beginning to wonder what I am doing? Does he want to still see me after all this? Does he still want to date me after all this? He still says yes and I am just confused. Oh, I am 28 and he is 32.
I'm not sure that I see what the real issue is :) Lots of people jump into sex early in a relationship for all sorts of bad and good reasons. And if anything, it's wise of him to back off a bit and try to build up the connection and caring between you two before letting lust overrule everything else.
Once or twice a week is a lot better than most people who are nearby manage! So enjoy the times you two have together, and work on seeing if you really do enjoy being with this guy. If you do, and if you two have a connection forming, then be happy with it and keep working on it. If all works out well, I'm sure that the rest of the intimacy will build up normally.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com