Am I wrong for abandoning him like this?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Recently my husband had submitted a question regarding our relationship. He then e-mailed me a response he had received. I was quite disturbed with what the reply was. However, I have my own question. When it is time to call it quits? Situation is, yes I stepped outside of my marriage by engaging in a kiss twice. It was never more than a kiss. However, my husband found out about this kiss going on 4 years now. I then gave him options which were to divorce me or forgive me and move past this situation. He choose to forgive me. During the last 4 years he has been very addicted to ice. We had our 2nd child 2 years ago. Needless to say I gave birth to our 2nd child after yelling and crying when I found him doing drugs that night. In addition, our son almost died of suffucation when my husband failed to be alert and notice that my son's head was stuck in the pillow. He was only 2 months old. That is when things took a turn. He has been into drugs heavily for 3 years now. It has even come to the point where he started to physically abuse me. I ended up moving out and have been on my own for 6 months. He claims that I don't show him love or show him affection. Really, how can someone on drugs really notice what is in front of him. Am I wrong for abandoning him like this? I tried in the beginning to help me by seeing counselors and psychiatrist but he felt that he didn't need. That he can do it on his own. Now, he writes saying I am the evil person by not being there with him through this time. Am I wrong?
You did the right thing by leaving him. He has been doing drugs too long and he refused to go to a counselor with you. You have done everything that could be done to try to stay together.
His email to this service was probably full of misinformation and that is why he got the answer he did.
I am hoping the best for you and your kids!
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