He Liked Me but now Wants to be Friends
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
This guy kept coming up to me, and talking to me. I started to like him too, and I decided to ask if he wanted to do something with me some time. He invited me to his work, and I invited him to my house. I had fun hanging out with him, and I decided to ask him to watch a movie with me, and he reached for my hand. He later invited me to his friends house later. He walked me up to my door, and I gave him a hug.
I talked to him on chat, and I asked him if he had fun Friday. He said yea, sort of. Then he said he wanted to be friends. I am wondering if I did wrong by giving him a hug at the end. Do think this is the end for us to hang out. I am very confused.
I wouldn't try to get that sort of information from him on a chat. It can be really hard to read emotions or to talk about things on a chat because you have know idea how the other person is interpreting what you are saying.
I'd go out for drinks or something with him, or dinner or even just somewhere to talk. Get a better sense from him of what's going on. Maybe he's getting over a breakup and doesn't want to rush. Maybe he values your friendship a lot and is afraid of losing it. Friends hug each other all the time so I don't think the hug was bad at all. I think that's a really good part of strong friendships. So I'd talk with him face to face and give him an opening to keep your relationship moving forward, even if it's slowly.
-- from Jenn
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