My ex broke up with me 4 weeks ago
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Not sure how to start this.
My ex broke up with me 4 weeks ago. We weren't together that long,i knew he liked me for months,but I wasn't sure if I was interested.I 1st kissed him four months before we got together,and he sent me hundreds of emails and texts afterwards,so I slowly got to know him.He was writing me messages telling me I was his princess and that he couldn't stop thinking about me etc.When we were together I felt so happy,he told me he thought we were going to be together for a long time just over a week before he broke up with me.He just told me in the street that it wasn't going to work out,and I just walked off i was so shocked.The problem was though that we work in the same company and I see him every day and I was so confused, I couldn't handle it.I called him to ask him to meet up with me,so we met for a drink 2 weeks ago, i cried and told him how hurt I was,and how I dont understand how his feelings changed so fast like that.He told me he had met up with an ex,that nothing had happened,but he wanted it to.He still was with me for a week after meeting the ex,we spent the weekend together and everything was fine.Anyway, I got my closure when we met up and started to feel a bit better the next day. Then on the Sunday he called me at 2AM.I was asleep and missed the call. I asked him since what he wanted,but he just said he didn't know.Then he sent me a message saying he was sorry, that it shouldn't have happened. When I see him at work he still looks at me the way he used to. Last Friday there was a work night out,we ended up kissing,and he was going to come home with me,then he just told me he was seeing someone else now,and he got up and left.I'm just so confused,i dont know what it is about him, but I just miss him so much. I cant stand thinking about him with someone else, I dont get why he was kissing me if thats true. He knew how upset I was,and still he called me like that. Sometimes I think he is playing with my feelings on purpose, but I dont want to think he is sick like that. I just miss being with him so much,i cant stand when I have to talk to him at work and its like I dont mean anything more than anyone else at work to him.
I want to think maybe he is a bit scared or something and might change his mind, but I suppose I am probably fooling myself.
Anyway, any feedback would be really appreciated. Thanks.
You didn't have a relationship for too long.
He say's he broke up with you because he ran into an ex and felt like being with her. This is after writing you hundreds of emails and texts saying you were his princess.
He sounds like an all or nothing person. Either he's head over heels in love or he has little feelings at all. He is also impetuous (like when he kissed you at the party).
You can try to stay good friends with him and hope to get back together with him, but my advice is to let him go and find some who deserves you more.
Good luck! George
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