My boyfriend and his ex that he dated for a year and a half are still best friends and it bugs me.
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My boyfriend and his ex that he dated for a year and a half are still best friends and it bugs me. It all started when he spent the night at her apartment,just the two of them, rather than comming with his friend to take me home. I couldn't understand why he had to stay at her house when he had been there all day already. I trust him not to do anything but i didnt trust her or the situation. All of my new friends, who have been friends with them both for a while, tell me not to worry about it but i just cant help but thinking that she is more important to him than me. They are such good friends and it drives me INSANE!!! They know everything about wach other and i feel left out. I just feel like she will always be there, and im just temporary. It keeps me from being comfortable with his relationship with her.
Its also easier for her to hang out w/ him since she has her own apartment and a car. I dont have a car and i dont have as much freedom as she does. I want to be able to become as close to him as she is but its hard b/c we dont get a lot of alone time. How can i rid myself of this feeling of insecurity in our relationship?
If you haven't done so, explain your feelings to him.
You are in a tough situation and need his help in keeping you feeling comfortable. Ask him not to see her so often as a favor to you.
Not a lot you can do but hope he will help you out.
-- from George
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