17 yr old loves 27 yr old
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I am 17 years old. I know this may sound a little wierd but the woman I love is 27. We met online about 2 years ago. For a while we were just friends who liked playing a card game called Spades(similar to bridge) together. Eventually we found out that we had just about everything in common. It was a perfect match, we liked all the same things. We couldn`t find anything we didn`t have in common nomatter what the subject. Eventually I fell in love with her. I didn`t want to say anyting to her though because since she was 10 years older i thought it might be kind of wierd. Some time later she sent me a pic, and she turned out to be the most beautiful woman I`ve ever seen. She didn`t even look 27 like she said. She looked like she was 17 or 18, but she proved she was 27 with a pic of her drivers licence.
When I was about 16 and a half we were chatting on IM and she said I love you. I was shocked but typed I love you too. If she hadn`t said it first I might not have ever told her just cause shes 10 years older. She knows I love her but now I`m not so sure she ever ment it, because just recentlyshe met this other guy online about a week ago. They have already met in person. He flew all the way from KY to PA to meet her. The reason I don`t think she ment it is because she already had sex with this new guy she met a week ago online. Plus she told me she`s flying to KY to his house. I asked when she`d be comeing back and she said she was staying. I think they`re going to wind up getting married soon too. It broke my heart and I`ve been both very mad and sad at the same time.
The problem is I don`t think this guy even loves her just likes her for her looks. He`s known her for only a week online, and less then 24 hours in person. Theres no way he knows her that well. How can I tell if she really did love me or just like me as a friend? How can I tell if he really does love her or if he just likes her for her looks? How can I tell if she loves him or not? Is there anyway I can get her to like me and not him?
The guy is 25 and is still liveing at home with his mom. Any normal guy wouldn`t still be liveing at home with his mom at the age of 25. So I think theres something wrong with him.
We have never met in person but have been planing on it as soon as I turn 18. So I would be talking on IM when trying to find all the answers to the above questions out. In less she dicides to let me talk to her on the phone. She has 3 kids 12, 9, and 7. Do you think it`d be ok if I talk to them about it and maybe they could tell me what they think is going on? Or do you think I should just leave them out of it?
Please any help would be nice as soon as possible. I love her and in a way would hate to see her marry someone else. I want her to be happy though, and I know she has the right to like who ever she wants. I don`t think I`ll ever find another woman just like her. She`s 1 of a kind. Would be pretty much impossible to find someone else as great as her. I`d do anything and give up anything I can just to be with her. I know I can`t exacly stop her from marrying him if he asks, which I`m sure he will. Probally within a few days. Its not my decision. Anyway what should I do? I`ll take any advice. Thanks
First off... don't talk to her kids about it... a very bad idea that will get your burnt really fast.
Realistically this woman has some fundamental problems which you seem to be overlooking. It is unreasonable for a 27 year old woman to be in love with a 17 year old and expect it to work out (and she's the mother of 3 kids).
Then she meets a guy online for a week, they have sex, and she is moving to KY (with her kids?) to be with this guy after one week. There is something wrong with this picture.
If I were you I'd thank my lucky stars that she has found someone else.
Remain good friends with her if you want to and see what happens.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com