My bf and i had an argument and i said in anger that he must have killed my cat
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
sigh my life goes from bad to worse :(
My bf and i had an argument and i said in anger that he must have killed my cat *who went missing while i was away and he was looking after* thou i have said i didnt mean it and besides if i thought that then i wouldnt leave my other cat with him but now he says he cant forgive me for saying it thou i have to forgive and forget him telling me that yes he wanted to stay with me and then telling his friends online that he hated me and wished i was dead thou he says it was all a joke and was said when we were arguing but because of what i said he is now thinking about us breaking up and he has to tell me this when i am at my parents house and cant get home for a few days and i cant let them know how depressed i am feeling because they think that he has changed since we last went out and that he is a nice person now.
He has done this to me before decided after we have moved in together that he does not want to be with me anymore and this time he will leave me with alot of debt because it was my c/c that was used to purchase oil for heating and other essentials that we needed, dont know how i am going to cope if he says that he does want to split up i just dont know what is going on in his head he says there are still feelings but then accuses me of being the only person who can make him so angry but he was the one who came chasing after me and eventually convinced me that he had changed and that he would not do the same as he has done in the past and is doing now.
Think i am at the end of all hope, feel like giving up on my life, i dont know if i can cope having to start again from nothing if he dumps me thats what i will have nothing but a pile of debt.
Finances: keep track of what you have spent and if he breaks up take him to small claims court (or the British equivalent) so he has to pay you his half.
Your anger at each other leads to me recommend that you see a therapist who may be able to get you on track again.
Meanwhile try to rebuild the trust, respect and affection that brought you together in the first place.
Good luck to the two of you!
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com