Boyfriend got German girl pregnant
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hey! Me and my ex-boyfriend was together for 7yrs. In the 6th year he went to germany for a year, because he is in the army. It was good at first, but I couldn't wait until he got back home. We would email like crazy, and we would try to call if we could. When it was almost time for him to come home like in his 7th month down there. He stop calling and stop emailing me. So I just went on with my life. I thought he was busy or something. Anyway while all this is happening I'm spending a lot of time with his mom. spending the night over there, and just spending time with his family. He gets back home and almost a year later he come over to my apaertment and said he had to tell me something, and that I should sit down. Mind you he was calling me on my phone telling me that I have something to say to me. I ask him are u breaking up with me, cause he never likes to talk much, so I thought that it was kind of wired. So he told me at my house that when he was in germany he had got some german girl pegnant and she was only 19yrs old. And she just had the bady. I couldn't believe that. He started crying. I was already crying. I felt as if he put a knife in my heart. Anyway he left to go to war. And I have not talk to him in 1 and a half years. Then I saw him spying on me. I move back to my moms house, and he was watching me. I turn around and it was him. Then he notice me looking at him, and he drove off. I think he is cought up. He said at the time when I ask him to choose between me or her. He couldn't, and that really hurt. What should I do? I am 23 and he is 23yrs old. He says that he doesn't know what to do, but be there for his son. I think she is just traping him, so she can just get some money. Or she may want to live in the usa. Please I really need some advice. We have been together for 7yrs. Please get back!
He has got to make up his mind and that is the bottom line.
You need to encourage hime to weigh your 7 year relationship against the possibility that he will get along with the German girl.
It is understandable that he wants to be there for his son, but he can do that through financial contributions. You can help him do that too.
He obviously still cares about you so take advantage of that and get him to do the right thing by you.
-- from George
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