Getting her Comfortable with me
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
i asked this girl out in my school way too early, so now she is kinda frightened of me, i have been working on fixing the problem over the last few weeks, and i can occasionally talk to her.
i plan to ask her out again but i have to become friends with her again and get her to be comfortable around me since she is kinda shy when im near, is it possible that there is anything i can do to fix this prob
You definitely can spook someone by asking them out before they get to know you first. They don't know who you are, and now when you're around they're nervous. So it's always a good idea to get to be friends first so they know and trust you.
It's good that you're working on that now. It's a gradual process. Keep talking to her, saying hi, being friendly. Ask her how she's doing. Learn about her family and pets, and talk about them with her. That makes you seem like a normal part of her world, someone who understands a bit about her. Share your own family and pet information, so she gets to feel like she knows you better too. The more she feels comfortable with you, the more likely she'll say yes the next time you ask.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com