He broke up after 5 months, he wanted
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
My boyfriend for 5 months just broke up w/ me today. Yes it was sad i was heart broken. He said he wanted "space" and "time alone" i dont know if it was me or was it him. I said alot of things i know i will regret later. I just don't know what to do....
That's really a cop-out on his part. If he was mature enough to ask you out, and mature enough to build a relationship with you for 5 months, he owes it to you to give you a better reason for why he thinks it didn't work out. Obviously he wasn't happy if he left - and he should have been working and talking about that unhappiness with you BEFORE he just called it quits. Things in relationships don't just suddenly "go bad" like the Titanic hitting an iceberg. They build up. So while something was building up in him, he never bothered to tell you, or work on it, or find solutions or anything.
So I would go back to him, in a friendly way, and say that really, you just want some mature closure here. You put 5 months of your life into this relationship and are sad to see it all lost. You want to get a better understanding of WHY it failed so you don't make that same mistake in the future. Could he please give you more information about WHAT it was about the relationship that he didn't like?
Yes, it's hard on him. Yes, it's not easy for him to talk about it. But he has a responsibility to tell you. You deserve to know, after 5 months, what he felt was wrong. If he wasn't mature enough to tell you WHILE he was dating you, he can at least tell you now that he's decided to call it quits!
-- from Jenn
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